Psychotherapist London
Thinking & Writing
On psychotherapy, the inner life, and the work of change.
The Loneliness of the CEO
The situations described here are composited and altered. None corresponds to an identifiable person. It is a cliché that it is lonely at the top. Like many …
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After Detox: When the Real Treatment Begins
If you have just finished a detox, a medically supervised withdrawal, a stay in a clinic, you have done something difficult and you deserve to be proud of it. …
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Prayer, Anger and Forgiveness: What Changes When You Pray
I want to write about prayer, and I want to do it as a clinician, not a preacher. Because in twenty-five years of working with addiction, I have watched prayer …
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The Oedipus Complex Reconsidered: The First Rejection
When people hear “Oedipus complex” they think of the Freudian caricature: the little boy who wants to sleep with his mother. I do not work with that, and to be …
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Men's Mental Health Month: Beyond the Moustache
Every November, Men’s Mental Health Month arrives with its moustaches and its campaigns, and for one month the statistics get repeated. They deserve repeating. …
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The Father Wound: A Wound in Becoming
I have written elsewhere that the mother wound is a wound in being. The father wound is its counterpart: a wound in becoming. To see why, you need Jung’s three …
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The Karpman Drama Triangle: The Map of the Drama, and the Way Out
In 1968 the psychiatrist Stephen Karpman, a student of Eric Berne’s transactional analysis, drew a small triangle that became one of the most useful maps in all …
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The Mother Wound: A Wound in Being
The phrase “mother wound” is modern shorthand, not a term Jung used. But Jungian psychology gives it a depth the internet versions lack, because Jung saw …
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Emotional Eating: The Hunger of the Soul
Eating your feelings means turning to food not because the body is hungry, but because something else is. To understand that something, you can open a nutrition …
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