Psychotherapist London
Thinking & Writing
On psychotherapy, the inner life, and the work of change.
How to Stop Watching Porn, and Why Willpower Keeps Failing
You have probably already tried to stop. There will have been blocking software, and a period where it worked. There will have been a day count, kept privately, …
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The Addictive Personality, and Why Disciplined Men Are the Hardest to Treat
He runs something. A firm, a fund, a team, a practice. He is up before six, he does not miss deadlines, and people describe him as relentless in a tone that is …
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Does Everyone Need Residential Treatment? What the Guidelines Say
Most people who contact a private practice about addiction, an eating disorder or trauma have already assumed that proper treatment means going away somewhere. …
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The Jail of Discipline: What an Eating Disorder Looks Like in a Man
Most men who end up in my consulting room did not arrive thinking they had an eating disorder. Eating disorders are understood to be a young woman’s illness, so …
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What is Countertransference?
Countertransference is, broadly, everything the therapist experiences, thinks or feels in the room. The narrower textbook definition confines it to the …
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ChatGPT Therapy and the Work You Cannot Delegate
I should declare my interest before going any further. I earn my living doing something people increasingly attempt with a chatbot, often for free and sometimes …
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Complex PTSD: When the Trauma Never Ended
Vietnam, and what PTSD was built to describe Post-traumatic stress disorder came into general use after Vietnam. The picture it was built to describe is a …
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Living With an Alcoholic
If you are frightened for your safety right now, do not wait for a therapy appointment. The National Domestic Abuse Helpline is 0808 2000 247, free and …
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Male Eating Disorders: UK Statistics
Reliable figures on eating disorders in men are scarce, scattered and often misquoted. This page gathers the numbers I trust enough to use in my own clinical …
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