Psychotherapist London
Thinking & Writing
On psychotherapy, the inner life, and the work of change.
Ozempic and Eating Disorders: Why the Weight-Loss Drugs Miss What's Really Wrong
Ozempic can make a body smaller. What it cannot do is answer the question the eating was asking. More and more of the people who contact me now mention Ozempic, …
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The Desert of Isolation and the Garden of Solitude
People ask whether high-functioning depression really exists. In my consulting room it does, but not quite in the way the phrase suggests. The people I see are …
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The Thirst for Oneness
Even people with no religion tend to place the root of the spiritual in one very ordinary scene: a baby looking up at its mother. The infant gazes at her as at …
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The Underworld and the Temenos
In every mythology there is an underworld. It is described in much the same way wherever you find it: dark, grey, cold, uncomfortable, a place of pain. I have …
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Body Number 2: What a Male Eating Disorder Really Is
Many men who develop an eating disorder were, as boys, a little heavy - a child carrying a bit too much weight. What the disorder then does, in one form or …
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Masculinity Across a Life: One Energy, from Boy to Wise Old Man
A great deal of what I see in my consulting room - the addictions, the eating disorders, the aggression, the aimlessness, the midlife unravelling - makes more …
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Rehab, Honestly: When It Helps, and How to Choose One
Rehab is an important place. For some people it is the thing that saves their life, and I want to say that plainly before I say anything else - because most of …
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The Kronos Energy: How a Young Man's Aggression Becomes Ambition
A woman’s development is organised, in part, around a bodily and cyclical reality she must come to terms with. A man’s is organised around an energy he must …
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Disorganised Attachment Style: What It Is, Why It Develops, and How Therapy Helps
Of the four attachment styles described in developmental psychology (secure, anxious-preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant, and disorganised) disorganised attachment …
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