Psychotherapist London
Thinking & Writing
On psychotherapy, the inner life, and the work of change.
The Thirst for Oneness
Even people with no religion tend to place the root of the spiritual in one very ordinary scene: a baby looking up at its mother. The infant gazes at her as at …
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The Underworld and the Temenos
In every mythology there is an underworld. It is described in much the same way wherever you find it: dark, grey, cold, uncomfortable, a place of pain. I have …
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Body Number 2: What a Male Eating Disorder Really Is
Many men who develop an eating disorder were, as boys, a little heavy - a child carrying a bit too much weight. What the disorder then does, in one form or …
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Masculinity Across a Life: One Energy, from Boy to Wise Old Man
A great deal of what I see in my consulting room - the addictions, the eating disorders, the aggression, the aimlessness, the midlife unravelling - makes more …
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Rehab, Honestly: When It Helps, and How to Choose One
Rehab is an important place. For some people it is the thing that saves their life, and I want to say that plainly before I say anything else - because most of …
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The Kronos Energy: How a Young Man's Aggression Becomes Ambition
A woman’s development is organised, in part, around a bodily and cyclical reality she must come to terms with. A man’s is organised around an energy he must …
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Disorganised Attachment Style: What It Is, Why It Develops, and How Therapy Helps
Of the four attachment styles described in developmental psychology (secure, anxious-preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant, and disorganised) disorganised attachment …
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Eating Disorders and Addiction in Athletes: The Obsessive-Compulsive Thread
Elite sport selects for exactly the traits that, taken too far, become an illness: discipline, self-denial, the ability to override the body’s signals and keep …
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What is Righteous Indignation? A Jungian Perspective
Righteous indignation is the feeling of moral outrage in response to perceived injustice. It is one of the most energising emotional states available to human …
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